It really does. Even though I'm supposed to know that many young adults view sex as nothing more than a physical itch to be scratched, it makes me so sad nonetheless. How can it not?
"At 25, May Wilkerson would like a relationship, but not a family — not quite yet. She's lived a lot of places: Argentina, Canada and Paris. Wilkerson says she hasn't found much intimacy with the men she's encountered. ... 'For many of us, the requisite vulnerability and exposure that comes from being really intimate with someone in a committed sense is kind of threatening.' And the thought of being in love with someone, Wilkerson says, 'is the most terrifying thing.' Yes, she has been in love, but the guy wasn't quite into it. There was one older guy who was serious; he used to bring her cupcakes. She couldn't work up an interest in him."
Who raised this poor child? Who taught her what her goals should be for her life? I'm not suggesting that a young woman's only goal should be family and marriage (I was married in the middle of law school and have worked almost every moment since as an attorney, for heaven's sake) but who on earth failed to explain to her that this kind of attitude is almost as self-destructive as developing a coke habit?
Parenting is hard. We all know that. But these are some of the most important lessons we can teach as parents. It matters not whether you are raising your children in a religious tradition or not; teaching your kids how to form healthy relationships, especially one that will lead to marriage and a family, is a lesson that every parent should want to focus on. In the end, what are you really offering your kids, if you don't teach them how to connect in a real way with others?